There isn't a lot of sex in the early marriage..
Does jealously make this different? If he sees other guys flirting with me, will he try harder to turn me on?

It's not like he doesn't want sex... he just doesn't want to try.

 

I am so confused by this...

There isn't a lot of sex in early marriage? Sorry to tell you this, but they call it the "honeymoon" for a reason.

Does jealousy make this different? No. Maybe you needed to find a man who was confident and didn't ever have a jealous thought to begin with.

He doesn't want to try??? Then why did you ever choose him to begin with?

Was it because he was willing to settle for someone who didn't take the time to see what sub-forum they were posting in?

 

Have you tried actually asking him?

Usually more sex happens early on in a marriage.

 

This can backfire spectacularly. I wouldn't try it.

 

The problem is that he might think you are flirting with other guys instead and that could cause trouble. I think you first need to tackle it head on and have the talk. The lust dies a little each year so if it's starting out slow, it could get slower.

 

It one way to get a divorce if that's what your after, if your not don't do it,, talk to each other and try to find out what the problem is

 

You might have married a dud...it doesn't usually get better, it gets less...

 

Or he's cheating on you.. that's what I would guess

 

Jealousy is a form if insecurity. often mistaken for possessiveness. The jealous man is one who fears the only reason his woman is with him is because she hasn't been offered a better deal. His only hope of keeping her is to keep her away from other men, or make her unattractive to other men. This is the guy who doesn't want his woman to wear sexy clothes, wear make up, or lose weight.

You need to look somewhere else for a solution. If he doesn't desire more sex, that means you want more than him. Why would he want to turn you on? You're already there.

You need to talk to him and find out what is going on, instead of trying to play stupid manipulation games.

 

wake him up in the morning with a blow job and report back here with what happened.....

 

Depends on whether you are using jealousy as part of a roleplay game or if you are using it as a weapon ...

 

He's into men

 

*Holds Lioness and gives her a big hug*

 

"My sex life is broken. Will sowing jealousy between my partner and I make things better?"

"I've got pneumonia. Will syphilis help?"

What I'm saying is, treat the disease. Adding a second will not, can not help.

 

That is one damned confusing post! Jealousy never fucking helps anything!

 

It helps one thing "putting an end to a relationship".

 

marriage becomes monotonous in a long term relationship,dont make him jealous blow his mind so he never wants to get you out the bedroom.Be freaky and spontaneus,eat his ass as you blow him but if you make him jealous he will resent you.

 

Now I'm wondering how passionate women end up marrying duds. There should be a book about avoiding that kind of incompatibility, or getting out sooner, for both men & women. It does just get worse in my experience too.

 

Some people thrive on jealousy and the drama that surrounds it, at least on an unhealthy way.

 

No it sure doesn't ! If this dude is too lazy to sex up his new wife already,you need to rethink the whole marriage! Talk to him openly first though as there may be a good reason. I can't think of any but who knows! Good luck